Ten years. That is how long Miriam says she and Jake Beaudoin talked on and off — with their most recent messages landing in the summer of 2025, only weeks before he resurfaced in Whitney Way Thore’s life and, three days after going public, put a ring on it.
Per reports, Miriam stepped forward in an Instagram exchange that soon spread to Reddit. She says they talked on and off for nearly a decade, but stresses they were never in a relationship. She also claims Jake “prefers bigger women” and says his trailer behavior does not surprise her. Fans immediately lined her words up against the Season 14 premiere.
Ten Years of Texts, Zero Relationship
Start with the timeline. Miriam says her most recent contact with Jake came in the summer of 2025. Whitney hard-launched him on August 15, 2026, from a Blue Ridge Parkway overlook, and announced their engagement three days later. He had proposed on a mountain hike with friends and Goosey, their dog.
The dates sit close — close enough that the timeline itself became the story. But Miriam stressed she and Jake were never in a relationship — cutting against how some threads framed her. Jake, 41, lives near Hickory and reconnected with Whitney after she moved back home. A decade of messages, no relationship, is not an ex stepping forward.
The Speakerphone Call Fans Can’t Stop Replaying
The second clue is one viewers actually saw. In the November 9 preview, Whitney put Jake on speakerphone with her friends. They heard his voice — and that he likes her butt — and within seconds one friend said it hinted at “playing for the wrong team.” Another suggested down low or bisexual — the whole theory resting on his voice alone.
Whitney shut it down on the spot: people had told Jake this before, she said; his style is metro. “I have never had a single worry,” she said; in her confessional: “Jake loves women.” Her closing line — “The man’s not gay, henny” — has been quoted ever since.
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The September Gap Nobody Can Explain Away
Then there is the gap. Fans noticed Whitney stopped posting Jake in early September; Jake has stayed silent about her and the engagement she announced in August. On November 11, users reacting to the call questioned whether it is genuine; a Reddit thread drew 234 votes, per TV Season & Spoilers. Others called the scene staged-feeling and faulted Whitney for oversharing with near strangers. A gap proves nothing alone — but beside a ten-year pen pal, the silence reads louder.
Two Pressure Points the Cameras Already Showed
Some pressure needs no detective work — it aired. In the preview, Jake said he would prefer not to use donor sperm while Whitney weighs motherhood — the donor-sperm split. Whitney has floated Banff and Iceland for the wedding and said on November 4 she was already planning it; Jake acted as if planning had not begun. Whitney admitted fearing Jake would leave after the Emmys — he was “acting a little weird.”
What Lines Up — and What Doesn’t
For Miriam: the timeline fits, almost too neatly, and her claim matches a man his friends doubted within seconds of hearing him. Against it: she insists there was never a relationship; voice-based guesses prove nothing; and nobody has produced the messages, so ten years rest on one woman’s word.
The board holds a neat timeline, a witness who was never more than a voice in his inbox, and a fiancé who has said nothing at all. Miriam says she knew Jake for a decade — does that make her the most reliable witness here, or the least? And if you were Whitney, would you want to hear from her at all?
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