KiKi & Kibbitz says it has been sitting on messages and video since June — material the account claims shows Rick Van Vactor’s behaviour toward his girlfriend months before his arrest. That claim, in TV Season & Spoilers’ November 10 roundup, has split 90 Day fans in two.
The outline is not in dispute. Rick, 53, the California father of five who flew to Madagascar on Before the 90 Days Season 8 to meet Trisha Stiley, was arrested in late October after an alleged domestic violence incident with his new girlfriend, according to reports. A California VINE custody record lists him under his legal name, Douglas Van Vactor, as released after posting bond, the entry updated October 27 at 3:47 p.m. Pacific. The first arrest reports followed. What happened in the room — and who started it — is where the two versions begin.
The June Messages Nobody Has Seen
The newest claim comes from the Instagram account KiKi & Kibbitz, which puts the arrest on October 28 and says it holds messages and video from June that, in its words, show Rick’s “abusive behaviour” toward his girlfriend. The material has not been independently verified. One side treats the claim as a pattern finally surfacing; the other points out that unseen evidence is, for now, only a claim. The date is fog too: the account says October 28, the custody record October 27, and no police statement has explained the gap.
The Video, and What It Cannot Prove
On October 30, Complex described footage circulating online that appears to show a man identified as Rick with his hands around a woman’s neck, striking her, with children nearby. The footage has not been independently verified, and no clip shows what happened before the camera started rolling or after it stopped. For one camp, that was enough. For the other, an unverified clip is not a verdict.
The Other Version: “She Started It”
Rick’s version arrived on November 5, when a source with direct knowledge told TMZ he acted in self-defense and that his girlfriend started the argument. They met online and began dating in March, the reporting said, and have not lived together since, with Rick having no interest in reconciling. His self-defense claim was repeated on November 6 by a second account citing direct knowledge. Rick himself has not spoken publicly.
Why Trisha’s Name Keeps Coming Up
Ask why so many fans already sound certain, and the answer starts in Madagascar. Rick’s Season 8 romance with Trisha collapsed over children — he had five and wanted no more; she, a midwife nearly 30 years younger, wanted a family — and over his admission that he had slept with an ex in Colombia while believing Trisha had cut contact. At the Tell-All, Trisha said she was pregnant with someone else’s baby. None of that is evidence about October. But for fans who remember Colombia, it reads as a pattern; for Rick’s defenders, it is old history that should stay out of a new allegation. One rumour has been cut loose: reports that Rick liked Emma Perry’s photos say nothing ties Perry to the arrest.
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What Is Settled — and What Is Not
One week on, the settled pile is small: an arrest in late October, a bond release recorded October 27, a legal name, an age, a reporting agency. The unsettled pile is everything else: no charge publicly named, no police statement, no court date confirmed, and the girlfriend’s account unreported. The allegations have not been proven in court. The story has now travelled from TMZ and Complex to PopCulture on November 9 and AL.com on November 10 — the next fact will land before a much bigger audience.
So the divide is not about one night in October. It is about which piece of an unfinished story you trust first — a man’s word that he was defending himself, a video described but never verified, or June messages nobody outside one account has seen. If the June material ever surfaces, would it settle this for you — or did Madagascar already make up your mind about which version of Rick’s story you believe?
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