“For the time being.” That was Nigel’s answer when Andi finally asked for the one thing she crossed the world for: him, and only him. She had given up her Nashville music career to move, in her own words, “literally to the other side of the planet.” What she got back was a yes with an expiry date.
The exchange aired in the November 8 episode of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way, “Hakuna Ma-Drama,” and it poured fuel on the rulebook war splitting the fandom since the November 4 Entertainment Tonight first look. Andi was not asking for forever — just monogamy while she settles into a new life. Nigel agreed, then put a clock on it: lifelong monogamy, he said, is not for him. Then he asked about reopening things once she settles in.
That was not the deal Andi thought she had made. The couple agreed to ethical non-monogamy while they lived on different continents, and Andi quietly hoped it would end once she arrived in Brisbane. On October 24, she told her family that distance alone had made her agree to the open setup. Two weeks later, she finally spoke up.
“For the Time Being”: The Three Words That Rewrote the Deal
Listen to what Nigel actually agreed to. Not monogamy. A pause — a trial period with a review date he gets to set. He even asked whether she wanted monogamy out of jealousy, as if wanting her boyfriend to herself needed a suspicious motive. The question turns a request about commitment into a question about Andi’s character — while dodging the harder one: whether he ever planned to give up his other relationships.
Her Texts Were “Emotional Cheating.” His Lovers Are “Mostly Physical.”
Then Nigel flipped the conversation entirely. In the same sit-down, he confronted Andi over her own history: before the move, she had texted and flirted with two men, and slept with one of them. “If they text me, I’m going to text them back,” she told him — the same flat answer from the November 4 first look. Nigel branded it emotional cheating.
His defense of his own side is where the double standard sharpens. Nigel says his other relationships stay mostly physical, with no ongoing text threads. Andi’s answer is painfully simple: she looked for connection elsewhere because he often went days without replying. Nigel blames festivals with no reception. So her texts are a betrayal, his silence is a lifestyle — and somehow Andi is the one on trial.
YOU MAY LIKESTOP Sharing That Viral Post: The Cruel Jenny Slatten Death Hoax Debunked — She’s Alive and Still FightingThen there is the receipt fans keep bringing up. Nigel had Andi put a $10,000 timeshare on her credit card. And days before this episode aired, he danced face-to-face with Azrael — his “most recent, sort of, part-time lover” — at the Earth Frequency Festival, while Andi appeared nowhere.
Team Andi vs. Team Nigel: The Fandom Picks a Side
The camps formed fast. Team Andi says she gave up a career and crossed the planet, asked for a pause rather than forever, and got a conditional yes. Team Nigel says she agreed to non-monogamy before she moved, and a confession does not rewrite the rules. Fans have already ranked the couple most likely to split first — and Andi and Nigel sit at the top.
The two of them are living in different relationships. Andi thought non-monogamy was a long-distance phase. Nigel treats it as a permanent identity. She wants exclusivity; he treats monogamy as a pause between festivals. Neither Andi nor Nigel has confirmed a breakup, according to reports. New episodes air Sundays at 8 p.m. ET on TLC.
So here it is: if Nigel can keep Azrael as a “part-time lover” while calling Andi’s texts emotional cheating, is Andi asking for monogamy — or just asking for the same rules Nigel already gives himself?
